Are you building a coaching business around what you want… or what you think everyone else wants from you?
In this episode of The Gates in Real Life, we dive into Gate 19 in Human Design, also known as the Gate of Wanting.
We unpack the Gene Keys spectrum of Codependence → Sensitivity → Sacrifice and explore what it means to be deeply attuned to others without losing yourself in the process.
Perfect for coaches who’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, undercharging, blurry boundaries, or making business decisions from fear instead of alignment.
You’ll hear personal stories about:
- Burnout from over-giving (and how to shift into sustainable service)
- The difference between true attunement and energetic enmeshment
- How your sensitivity can become your superpower (instead of a drain)
- What nervous system regulation has to do with setting offers, prices, and expectations
- Why creating a business that supports you is the first step to truly serving others
Plus, we explore how Gate 19, rooted in the Root Center, adds pressure for security, stability, and connection. And how that pressure can guide you toward building a more reciprocal, spacious business.
This episode offers a grounded, nuanced take on how sensitivity, self-worth, and strategy all intertwine, and is especially powerful if you’ve ever talked yourself out of an idea that lit you up… just to keep someone else comfortable.
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Heidi’s Offerings:
Come join me on Substack, where I explore the middle path between business success and well-being for heart-led biz owners: substack.com/@servicewithsoul.
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Melissa’s Offerings:
If this conversation resonated with you, you’ll find more inside my Substack, Remembering Who You Are… where Human Design meets business, personal growth, and the deeper work of living in alignment with who you already are. https://substack.com/@melissanaslund
Ready to scale your business in a way that feels easeful and aligned?
You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Let’s connect for a Next Steps Call—a spacious, no-pressure conversation to help you gain clarity on what’s next for your business and explore if working together feels right.
Your business should support you, not the other way around. Let’s find a way forward that feels good.
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