What if the thing keeping you stuck in your business is not lack of strategy, but the opinion you keep defending?
In this episode of The Gates in Real Life, we explore Gate 17 through the lens of Human Design and the Gene Keys – the gate of opinion, pattern recognition, and the deeper wisdom that comes when you stop gripping so tightly to being right.
For coaches, this one is huge.
Because opinion doesn’t just show up in social media debates or hot takes about pineapple on pizza.
It shows up in your business when you decide there is only one way to market, one way to sell, one way to grow, or one explanation for why things are not working.
It shows up in self-judgment, in comparison, and in the pressure to defend your current point of view instead of staying open to a bigger pattern.
In this conversation, we talk about:
- The difference between the Shadow of opinion and the Gift of far-sightedness
- Why defensiveness is often a sign you are gripping an opinion too tightly
- How self-criticism is just the Shadow of this gate turned inward
- What it looks like to loosen your grip and get curious instead
- Why the most aligned business growth often happens when you stop taking everything so personally
This episode is a powerful one for coaches who want to build a business with more clarity, less rigidity, and more capacity to see what is actually true, not just what fear is trying to prove.
If your mind has been spinning, if you have been attached to a certain strategy, or if you have been feeling the pressure to be right, this conversation will help you breathe, zoom out, and see a wider view.
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Heidi’s Offerings:
Come join me on Substack, where I explore the middle path between business success and well-being for heart-led biz owners: substack.com/@servicewithsoul.
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Melissa’s Offerings:
If this conversation resonated with you, you’ll find more inside my Substack, Remembering Who You Are… where Human Design meets business, personal growth, and the deeper work of living in alignment with who you already are. https://substack.com/@melissanaslund
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